There are few things in life for which I
truly care for. The scopes of these few things, however, are rather far
reaching and seemingly broad. Friends and family, I’d say, are the absolute
most important things in my life. My friends are family and my family are
friends. I care about them, no matter how many times those bitches stab me in
the back (well they aren’t all bitches).
I mention this because there’s something
on my mind. Of course there is, I’ve always got things on my mind. But today,
in particular, I’m talking about girls. And boys, I suppose; or perhaps I mean
to say how girls react in regards to boys.
My rant.
I absoposilutely (an amalgamation
of absolutely and positively... get used to it) cannot comprehend why people of
the female gender feel the need to impress and satisfy strange men. And indeed
I do mean strange, for men whom you do not yet know are incredibly strange and
for one to feel the urge to go out of your way to entice them, seems an
entirely ridiculous idea (at least that’s my opinion). Seriously though chicas!
Why? Just why?! Why build your life around a man you haven’t met yet? Why waste
your time trying to find something that’s meant to happen naturally? What’s the
point? Where’s the joy in that? To me it seems a load of stressful bullshit.
Yes, indeed it is. Love. Life. The two
certainly do go hand in, but they occur naturally. They aren’t wild animals
meant to be hunted down at all costs. When we try too hard to impress someone,
that’s when we lose all that we held highly. By this I mean, we forget who we
are and why we begun searching for this incredibleness in the first place.
Case in point.
I have several friends who piss me off
to no end. That’s not to say I don’t care for them, for I do with all my heart.
But their ideas about life and their whole reason for existence truly astound
me. Why? Because they believe that they have been divinely created in order to
capture the attention of a (or many) guy(s). Their goals in life simply consist
of finding a man who appreciates their beauty. That doesn’t seem too bad does
it? No of course not! But that is not precisely where my problem lies. These
lady friends of mine tend to put themselves down, they criticize themselves
(and complain rather loudly to all who might listen) of their blinding ugliness
which (call me crazy) I simply cannot see. And what absolutely shocks me is
that these girlies have the misters watching them from everywhere! But either
they refuse to acknowledge it, or they think themselves too good for those poor
misters.
Oh, and I hate that too. Girls thinking
they are above certain men when they have never carried out a conversation with
these boys that lasted more than a simple hello (if even that much is said).
But that’s a rant for another day.
Back to my point. One of my little ladies
already has a boyfriend! A handsome fellow of course and caring too. But that
isn’t enough for her. She still feels driven to find comfort in the words and
compliments of other fellows. Tell me, where do we draw the line? When is
enough, enough! How can you try to impress others when already you’ve found one
man to appreciate you in all your glory?! How is that fair? Are you not simply
using that boy? It seems so to me. But she, I can see, truly does care about
him. But why then; why must you look for approval in the eyes of a stranger?
To me, it would seem, she, as many
others out there, are simply missing the point; missing what’s right there
before them. Sure there are plenty of fish in the sea. But why go searching for
some bloody fish when you’ve got a perfectly incredible one who cherishes the every
breath that you take! And even so, if you haven’t a mister to call your own.
What’s the point in looking for one? I mean, imagine if your knight in shiny
metal valiantly comes running into your thousand foot high prison after having
battled the ferocious dragon, swam through shark infested oceans and climbed
about a million and one stairs just to find you’re already in bed with the
horrid Dr. Evil who’s responsible for your captivity in the first place. You would have just missed out on your happily
ever after and your only chance at true, unencumbered freedom.
So here’s what I say ladies (and this
goes for you men out there too!) Take care of yourselves first and foremost.
Learn, live, laugh have fun! That is how you’ll be truly happy. Don’t go
chasing idiot men (or in some of your cases women) and their bothersome ways.
They hold you back.
Look.
When you find a man who makes you feel as
though the sky’s the limit, then you know you’ve found your man. If you
constantly feel as though you must change yourself and hide even the tiniest,
darkest pieces of who you are to him or the world, then truly he is not for
you.
Love yourself and others shall love you
too. It’s a matter of confidence, of seeking and finding self worth.
Speak to the world as one, living
entity. Tell it who you are. Accept it. Live it. Never regret it.
I’m done for today, but if you need me I’m
always here.
Send me some feedback! I’d love to hear
your thoughts!
@marissachung1
